Fear of Being Single: Meeting the Representative

Chris Rock  said it best...“When you date…have you ever notice when you meet somebody for the first time, you’re not meeting them. You’re meeting their “representative”. Then after a about 3 months you meet the REAL Candidate”

Everyone is guilty of it, we do it everyday. Whether its a new client at work, an interview or even the dating pools. We all put the best foot forward initially....I call this the Rep Stage....

Stage One: Initial Meeting (Interview)

So you meet wherever single folks meet and exchange numbers/linkedin information/skype/AIM or whatever form of technology you desire to use to keep in touch. Depending on how great the first impression was you finally get a call/email, conversation is great, because unlike Christopher Columbus you are discovering new things about each other. Everything is fresh....everything is new and interesting about this person. Though this stage provides you with some background of the person and where they say they are heading, you still don't know this person. Some may pass this stage and head to the next, however those that don't will hopefully learn a lesson because it's obvious telling someone you just met about your four baby momma's was just too soon.


Stage Two: Puppies, Rainbows and Shit

Ahh yeah you all have been on the phone like teenagers staying up until all times of the night like y'all don't have a jobs. Sending each other sweet emails/IM's at work and calling each other during lunch. The dates have been great and rounding out the night is even better. You are purchasing new lingerie every week and sending photo's of your private regions on demand. Just spending time together and rearranging the schedule if necessary. You have been able to look in their eyes and see that no one exists but you............Yeah everything hot from the kisses to the dreams.......groovy baby yeah.......

Stage Three: Put a title on it

It's a couple month's in, you all may have had childish disputes but it's nothing major. You have at least met the siblings and the bestfriend. Yeah s/he has "claimed" you as theirs. Oh hum ho.......away we skip together holding hands. Everything is still hot and you all have created a consistent couple routine. The emails/IMs have lessened over the course of these month's yet you all are growing because now you are spending more time together. More of the actually person has shown and you notice the bad habits like leaving underwear in the floor of the bathroom or dislikes like washing dishes are revealed. It's all good, you can live with that stuff.

Stage Four: Hi Nice to Meet You

You all have been together for a while and spent time with each other's family during the holiday. Everyone loves each other and impressed by this new person you have spoken about so often before. Thing are progressing naturally, no power struggle, no stress on the future. You are still honeymooning.....except now you are a little more familiar with buttons that you have the ability to push regarding your partner's emotions/feelings. Who knew, things like asking her/him about their mother's mustache will set them off?? Small stumble, but it is definitely getting serious......you may even say the "I Love You" line and mean it now.

Stage Five: WTF was I thinking?

Been a while here. You all KNOW each other now and constantly ask yourself.....Can I handle this? Is this right? OMG This mf'er gets on my nerves..........I am going to volunteer to work late today because I can't go home and know s/he is there.....waiting for me. You all made it through a couple seasons' and despite the bad credit score and an apartment s/he originally told you was her/his condo o_0 and now the lease has ended, in turn  y'all now live together  since you ride for yours..........you Love that person. Sacrifice is a part of a relationship right? Compromise.....anyone? All their faults are out there, the ball is in your court....the representative is  gone and now it's 'Hello My Name Is.....' in your face

This is one of my "single person" fears