Let's Discuss Expectations.......

As per usual - this is totally random and will probably not flow in a way you understand or you probably keep thinking this chick is bat shit crazy.....whatev's #YOMAMA

Expectations as defined here is -

1: the act or state of expecting : anticipation <in expectation of what would happen>

2

a : something expected <not up to expectations> <expectations for an economic recovery>

b : basis for expecting : assurance <they have every expectation of success>

c : prospects of inheritance —usually used in plural

3

: the state of being expected

4

a : expectancy 2b

b : expected value

Let me share with you my thoughts on people and expectations.......Free Will

If we are monogamous and surely decided together to become an "exclusive" - he cheats then he is considered a fucking liar.

Communication is everything. Around my last relationship's beginning stages I ASSumed we were exclusive, he didn't say it, I did....in my head. He didn't know or understand why I was mad when he mentioned visiting a female friend. I expected him to know and ASSumed, a closed mouth don't get fed. He was courting me and I took it upon myself to only date him, so naturally (duh) I expected him to do the same because duh....I am doing it. I didn't say this is what I want, can you match it - I set myself up for disappointment. Men are transparent and we should communicate with them having this in mnd.

I think you should be fair to a person and let them know your expectation, give them the opportunity to tell you they can/can not meet up to them. Get out of your head

Now if y'all communicated and they said they can meet those expectations but renigg (like mf'ers do) then you have every right to be mad.

Having arguments talking about its your fault - how is it any one's fault but your own. No one is getting a daily report on your thoughts today...get out of your head. Stop setting these men up for failure when you the only one who knows the secret to some success in the relationship...this goes for any relationship though and interaction with people. Speak up.

I expect decency, but I am also a realist - Not everyone has decency or know what it is to give. Yes people wake up with evil in their heart and make it their mission to hurt someone - again, Free Will

Is this a black community issue.....not solely. But I know personally my mom told me "Life isn't Fair" and "No one owes you shit"

Ouch/Harsh - Maybe #shrug

I think I am stronger than most men/women I know.....God has been consistent for me though :)

It is also why when you tell me you'll do something, agree to whatever or however I go totally crazy/mad when you break your word. Seriously all you have is YOUR word, people make mistakes and shit happens but acknowledgement "Expectations" for what it is......your crazy ass delusion, hopes and ASSumption.